Let expectation motivate you (not constrain you)

I once read that expectation is the root of all evil…or all heartache…or something like that… I can’t quite remember the exact quote or who said it. And to some extent I agree with him/her. Expectation can lead to disappointment when things don’t turn out how we thought/hoped they would. But I think not having any expectation means also not having any goal, desire or purpose. And that just doesn’t seem like how we are meant to live. (Although perhaps the proper word for that then is intention, not expectation.) I know I’ve had expectations of myself, as well as others, many times over the years. Sometimes my expectations were met, and sometimes they weren’t. Sometimes things went horribly wrong, and sometimes what happened was so much better than I ever could have planned. I think if you are able to ride the wave and not be too set in your expectations, you will do just fine. But trying to control and predict life is a frustrating (losing) battle. When expectations aren’t met, it can still be a positive! It becomes a learning opportunity – a way of gaining knowledge through life experience. When expectations are exceeded, we get blessed by The Universe with a nice surprise. Many times when I’ve had expectations of someone – whether at work, a friend or in a relationship, I’ve been accused of being too demanding or too controlling or just not as nice as I could be. But here’s the deal… If I am asking you (gently nudging or even pushing you) to do more than you think I should, it’s because...

Do what you want (like no one’s watching)

“I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance. Never settle for the path of least resistance. Livin’ might mean takin’ chances, but they’re worth takin’. Lovin’ might be a mistake, but it’s worth makin’.  Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter. When you come close to sellin’ out, reconsider. Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance. And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance.” –I Hope You Dance (Lee Ann Womack) The theme amongst some of my family a couple weekends ago was: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (a quote from Wayne Gretzky). We weren’t talking about scoring goals (or hockey even) – it just kept coming up. We were talking about applying for jobs, asking someone out on a date – putting yourself out there in some way. One person would say something, and the (obvious) response from everyone else would be that line. If you’re not familiar with this expression, here’s the gist of what it means: 1) If you don’t go after what you want, you likely won’t ever have it. 2) If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 3) If you don’t step forward, you will remain in the same place. Recently my friend Sarah and I had the pleasure of talking with Ted Jackson. (He’s a guy who ran 7 marathons on 7 continents in 7 days. His story is totally incredible and inspiring!) Sarah had told me about him a few months earlier, and we both thought it would be...

When going with the flow can get you stuck in a rut

“Well I don’t know why I came here tonight. I got the feeling that something ain’t right. I’m so scared in case I fall off my chair, and I’m wondering how I’ll get down the stairs. Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right. Here I am, stuck in the middle with you.” -Stuck in the Middle with You (Stealers Wheel)  Last week I went to the “wrong” yoga class. (I recently moved from Alberta to Nova Scotia, and my stuff just arrived last week, so I’ve been unpacking and lugging boxes around my new place. I’ve made a lot of trips up and down the stairs, and my legs were fairly sore, so I figured a gentle yoga class where I could stretch my muscles would be a huge help.) Not long after the class began, the instructor said “Chair pose – oh yes, we are going there already; can anyone say Epsom salts?”, and I knew I was not in the therapeutic yoga class I had signed up for! But I went with the flow. Figuratively and literally. After the class, I got thinking about what message The Universe was trying to send me. I don’t believe there are any coincidences in life, so I was meant to be in the “wrong” class for a reason. And what was the reason? All that kept coming to my mind was “go with the flow”. I am generally pretty good at going with the flow; it is actually one of my strengths.  I know that life is unpredictable and that change is inevitable, and the thought of it (or...

Faith makes all things possible, not easy. #worththerisk

“I’d rather burn with desire deep in my soul, and love like a fire that’s out of control. And laugh and dance and fall and chance and kiss. I’d rather live my whole life with a sense of abandon, squeeze every drop out, no matter what happens. And not wonder what I’ve missed. I’d rather risk.” -Risk (Paul Brandt) Travel is my passion; it totally lights me up! It’s me at my happiest, and I love pretty much everything about it (not the packing part). I just got back from one of the most amazing vacations ever! I was part of a group of runners that raced our way across Panama. There were 5 legs to the race – all with a variety of terrain (some very challenging) and a volcano hike just for fun! Meet www.race2adventure.com. So, what made this trip so incredible?  Phenomenal people, beautiful scenery, sunshine, beaches, the ocean, old/new friendships, going outside my comfort zone, sights unseen by most tourists, delicious food, perfect weather, being outdoors every day, plus the experience and support of Merritt Hopper and his team. I almost did this race in Guatemala last year, but (for various reasons) it didn’t work out. Everything happens for a reason. Last year at this time, I still thought that this race was something I couldn’t actually do. I still believed my “I’m not an athlete” story. (Thanks to life coach training, I let that thought go!) So, was I super successful in this race? I suppose that depends on your definition of success. For me, I just wanted to go, complete each leg, and not die. Mission accomplished! I’m...

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