In life and love, you get what you give

I always say that the reason nuns and monks are so peaceful and blissed out is that they have no one up in their face on the daily stirring up their shit! (Imagine for a moment what your life might look like if you could just spend your days chanting and reading prayers – or if it were me, hiking through the woods, sitting at the beach, listening to music and doing yoga.) However, that’s not the life most of us signed up for. We signed up to be in relationships with others so that ultimately we could learn and grow emotionally and spiritually. But, dang – it’s hard sometimes! You could look at any relationship you’ve had (and I’m not talking just romantic partnerships) – this could be a friendship, marriage, between siblings, with your parents, on a sports team, etc., and I imagine at some point at least one of these people has triggered you. Maybe someone said something you didn’t agree with or they have a different way of doing things than you do, and it drives you crazy! It may even make you feel sad or insecure. No matter the feeling, I can guarantee you, if it’s happening, it’s meant to be teaching you. The best thing you can do in any relationship is to not make assumptions. The mind will try to convince you that you know the answers – that you know how someone else feels and what they are thinking. But you must ask – and listen – to what the other person says. When you get triggered by someone, you have a choice...

How can we make the world a better place?

“One thing I know – the world’s been good to me. A better place awaits – you’ll see.” –Glen Campbell (A Better Place) Each one of us can talk about our pain, our struggles, our upsets in life, our disappointments, our moments of despair – because we’ve all been through some sort of trauma or hardship. We might think ours was more difficult than someone else’s or vice versa, but hard is just hard – no better or no worse. Sometimes life just looks like a big pile of crap, and when you are in it, it sucks. It sucks regardless of whether you know for a fact that it’s temporary and won’t last. It sucks because sometimes you can’t “fix it” – all you can do is sit with the anguish and wait for it to dissipate. There is often no way of knowing when it will show up in your life and no way of knowing when it will be over, but things which happened in our past CAN be healed. As ‘they’ say: “Time heals everything.” Give time time. When time has worked its magic, you can look back on life with greater clarity. (I’m sure many of us have thought “If I only knew then what I know now” at some point in our life.) Often this happens when people are on their death beds – or at least later in life. It is possible for this to happen sooner, but we seem to spend so much time holding onto grudges, basing our current behaviour on past experiences, and just being stuck in a fear,...

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