“They” are right; less is more! How simplicity = happiness.

“Oh, it’s a mystery to me. We have a greed with which we have agreed. And you think you have to want more than you need. Until you have it all you won’t be free.” -Society (Eddie Vedder) I listened to an amazing interview (featuring two of my fellow life coach friends!) a couple of weeks ago, and during one part they were talking about the concept of hedonic adaptation. This basically means that we get used to good stuff. It’s how that the fuzzy feeling you get from a certain thing starts to subside over time. You know what I’m talking about! Like when you get a new pair of shoes that you “had to have” and within a few weeks you forget that you even own them as they collect dust in your closet. A lot of people get on the hedonic treadmill – constantly searching for the next best thing and hoping to find happiness in tangible things and/or from other people. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you can’t enjoy the things that you buy. I really like my books and my juicer for example.  I re-read my books over and over again, and I use my juicer nearly every day. I find a lot of joy in both of these simple things. (I just moved from Alberta back to Nova Scotia and actually packed my juicer in the car in case the moving truck takes too long to get here with the rest of my stuff. That’s how much I love juicing!) What I am saying, however, is that “stuff” won’t make you...

How not being right can make you really happy

“So let’s leave it alone, ’cause we can’t see eye to eye. There ain’t no good guys, there ain’t no bad guys. There’s only you and me, and we just disagree.” -We Just Disagree (Dave Mason) Have you ever had a really awkward, uncomfortable conversation with someone – the kind where they confront you over something you said? Where you felt like they misinterpreted what you meant? Or where you felt like you needed to defend your character because your thoughts on a topic differed? Well, it’s happened to me twice within the last week or so. One was in person, and the other was via the internet. Both situations made me realize how much I have changed (in a good way). When I was younger, I was extremely argumentative. I loved to voice my opinion, I loved to have the last word, and I loved to be right. When someone said something which I knew was incorrect, I felt obligated to point out their mistake. I didn’t care if I made people look stupid or feel bad. I wanted to prove how smart I was – how much I knew about the world. For me, having knowledge made me feel good about myself – like I had something  to offer. “I realized that I could be right or I could be free.” ~Byron Katie~ In my early 30’s, I started piecing together why I did what I did. I came to know that my behaviour was caused by a lack of self-confidence. I had based my self-worth on whether other people thought I was smart. Because I didn’t...

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