It’s more than a feeling, my friend

I had a blog nearly completely written the other day, and my computer died before I got to finish and publish it. (It didn’t just needed to be recharged – when I turn it on the screen is black.) So…then I wondered if I should try to rewrite the same post again or write something new. The answer came to me through a question someone asked on my Facebook page. I had made a post on there about the link between feeling your emotions and how it physically impacts your body. I mentioned that we are meant to feel all emotions and that some are best to not hang onto for long (such as anger, grief, or fear). I said that it’s good to feel any emotion fully, to acknowledge it, to find out what it’s trying to tell you, and then let it go. The person who commented said “I’ve read that 100 times and still say sounds good. No /$#&( * idea how to do that!” (I love honest people!) I figured I may as well make my blog post about this subject because I’m guessing the answer could be useful for many people. I really wish this kind of stuff was taught in schools. I remember when I was a kid I used to have temper tantrums (yes, the down on the floor kicking and screaming kind). Thinking back about it now, I wonder what I was so mad about. What was my emotion trying to say? How was I not being heard? Which leads me to one way I find it useful to fully feel an...

Emotions: the agony of our human experience

“When your day is long and the night, the night is yours alone, when you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on. Don’t let yourself go, ‘cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes.”  -Everybody Hurts (R.E.M.)  On the heels of nearly 5 straight weeks of vacation, 2 weeks ago I decided to start the Ultimate Reset (a Beachbody cleanse/detox). I figured it would help combat the less than healthy choices I’d made (in food and alcohol) during my holidays and maybe I’d even shed a few pounds. Perfect! What I didn’t expect was the emotional roller coaster I would experience for the first 5 days. Was it due to the reset itself or the post vacation blues? I can’t say for sure. What I can tell you is that I was crying nearly every day that week. There was nothing “wrong”.  I just felt sad, lonely and overwhelmed. Have you ever experienced the feeling of utter melancholy? I have. I’ve endured more heartache in my life than I want to think about sometimes – bad relationships, the death of my brother, a failed marriage, my Dad passing away, losing my Grampie Bob, and the one which I internalized the most – in my early 30’s, I had a miscarriage. I didn’t tell many people – for a couple of reasons: 1) I had said for so many years that I was never having children that when it happened, I believed I deserved it – that I had gotten what I’d been asking for and 2) I didn’t want people to feel sorry for me.  But the...

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