You get what you go after!

It’s ok to want for something more. In your relationship, maybe you want:  *more romance                                                                                            *more love *more sex In your work/career, maybe you want: *more money *more variety *more clients In your leisure time, maybe you want: *more fun *more adventure *more learning I’ve had conversations with 3 different people recently who ‘wanted’ something. Client # 1 wanted a new job. She was afraid to leave the comfortable job she had but immediately looked into what she needed to do to change jobs anyway. (She has now left the old job and gone on to a new opportunity.) Client # 2 wanted to book a session with me but saw no availability on the day she had in mind. She asked me if that day was booked full or if my online scheduler was just showing it as full. (I don’t normally coach on Fridays but when she asked I had nothing going on that day, so I gave her an appointment.) (Potential) Client # 3 wanted to coach with me and was only available 6 hours out of the 168 hour week. (I work part time in customer service and schedule my coaching and Reiki clients around that. I was not available during those 6 hours as it coincided with my part time job. I offered early mornings, afternoons, evenings and weekends...

Reflections: do you like what you see?

I’ve had so many thoughts in my head lately for blog posts, and there’s one I keep coming back to over and over… I keep hearing the words of someone at a workshop I recently attended: “Watch the reflections.” Reflections are everywhere in our world. What we see in others is in us – the good and the bad. You wouldn’t recognize it otherwise. Sometimes it mirrors back to us the qualities we want to be – loving, kind, confident, happy. Other times, what we see isn’t what we like – jealousy, anger, arrogance, insecurity. Often when we see something we don’t like, we use it as a way to judge another person. Deep down, however, there is a part of us that is like that person. So, instead, we can use this judgement as an opportunity to go within and learn more about ourselves. Every person and situation that has been in your life has been there to help you grow (spiritually) whether you realize it or not. You can point fingers and lay blame, but your soul made a contract with their soul to share this experience in this lifetime. As I always say, sometimes someone has to be the bad guy (or gal). But it is hard to see this in the heat of the moment. Your ego wants someone to be ‘right’ and someone to be ‘wrong’. I’m not saying that people don’t do bad things that we wish they wouldn’t do. However, we always have a choice in how we deal with what happens. Since everything externally is a reflection of what’s going on internally, it can...

Change is in the air!

Fall will begin today in the Northern hemisphere. Long summer days will switch to cool autumn nights. The trees which have been busy growing will drop their leaves in preparation for dormancy over the winter. While fall may be a good time for us to mimic nature – in the sense of letting go of what no longer serves us- it can also be a great time to reevaluate our lives and reinvent ourselves in a sense. What isn’t working? What have you been clinging to that really needs to change? What has your heart been begging you to do? What would bring you profound joy? It doesn’t have to be anything big or result in a major shift. Maybe you’ve known for a long time that you want to change your eating habits. Start with one small change. Notice how you feel. If it feels good, keep going! If not, make an adjustment. Keep a journal so you have a record of what works and what doesn’t. Maybe you are hanging on to the idea of a relationship with someone that you know isn’t right for you. It doesn’t mean there’s a flaw in you or in them. It just means that for some reason, your needs aren’t getting met, and no amount of wishing it to be different is going to change things. It’s always good to see the potential in something, and it’s even better to recognize the reality of a situation. Ask your angels to help you let go. Maybe you’ve had the urge to create something, to start a new job, to try new...

The magic of new beginnings

“To everything, turn, turn, turn.  There is a season, turn, turn, turn. And a time to every purpose under heaven.” –Turn! Turn! Turn! (The Byrds) Change is in the air – in more ways than one! Yesterday was the first day of fall in the Northern hemisphere. This means that summer is over…no more sitting out soaking up the sun, no more days at the beach, no more heading out the door somewhere at the last minute with wet hair (knowing it’ll be mostly dry by the time you get there). While seeing summer leave makes me a little sad, there are many things I love about this time of year: the leaves changing colour, the crispness in the air, and harvesting the food from my garden. For me, a change in seasons always feels like a time of new beginnings. It’s the perfect time for letting go of what needs to go and creating space for what wants to come into your life. Last week, some people very near and dear to me did exactly this when they packed up and moved to the other side of the country. I could look at it as a bad thing – an end to their time here in Nova Scotia (at least temporarily anyway). Or I could be excited for them and encourage them to celebrate! This is a new chapter in their lives, and I think there’s always something to look forward to with a new experience. What will unfold is unknown – just as it’s unknown what would have happened if they didn’t go. At some point, afraid...

How deliberate acts of kindness can change the world

“Today I’m gonna try and change the world. Gonna take it one day at a time. I’ve made my resolution. I’ve opened up my eyes.” -Today I’m Gonna Try and Change the World (Johnny Reid) If you’ve been following my facebook page, you know that I spent the month of November doing 40 deliberate acts of kindness in honour of my 40th birthday. I’d had an amazing year since my last birthday, and was feeling very grateful, so I began thinking about what I really wanted as a present (i.e. a way to celebrate my birthday that felt like a gift to me – without actually acquiring more “stuff” that I don’t need). All that kept entering my head was to give back. I had read an article about Robyn Bomar and how she’d done 38 acts of kindness on her 38th birthday. I knew I was not organized enough to do 40 in one day, so I decided to do 40 in one month. You might be asking, why bother giving back? What was my plan? And what did I hope to achieve?  The point was to try and make the world a better place. I know it sounds cliché, but I just had this desire to do something! Maybe I can’t change the world, but I can for sure start with me. I can change how I show up in the world and interact with others. My plan was to do the 40 acts of kindness and invite people to join me (in doing whatever acts of kindness felt right for them). My hope was that through our...

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