“Are you waiting on a lightning strike? Are you waiting for the perfect night? Are you waiting ‘til the time is right? What are you waiting for?” -What Are You Waiting For? (Nickelback)
I’ve noticed over the years that I either tend to wait for things to happen in my life or I can’t seem to wait at all. When I was younger I couldn’t wait to go to high school. And I couldn’t wait to get my driver’s license. And I couldn’t wait to move to the ‘big city’. And I couldn’t wait to graduate university. And I couldn’t wait to take my first big vacation (to Australia). And I couldn’t wait to meet someone. And I couldn’t wait to buy my first house. And I couldn’t wait to get that new position within the company. I just didn’t want to wait for things to happen.
More recently, I feel like there has been or is a lot of waiting. I was waiting for people to sign up for my new program. I was waiting for more coaching and Reiki clients to come along. I was waiting to earn more money. I have been waiting to get super fit and healthy. I am waiting to meet my soulmate. I am waiting for my house to sell. I am waiting to buy a new vehicle. I am waiting to travel. I am waiting to write a book. I am waiting for things to (miraculously) change.
“Life is not somewhere waiting for you, it is happening in you. It is not in the future as a goal to be arrived at, it is here now, this very moment – in your breathing, circulating in your blood, beating in your heart. Whatsoever you are is your life, and if you start seeking meaning somewhere else, you will miss it. Man has done that for centuries.” ~Osho~
When I actually stopped to think about what I was waiting for and why, here’s what I concluded: Some things I can’t control – like when my house sells. Some things I can control – like whether I eat healthy and work out. Some things I don’t even really care about – like buying a new vehicle (because I love the car I have!). It is simply the idea that I am waiting for something which triggers an emotion in me – not the waiting itself. Sometimes that emotion is sadness, sometimes fear, or sometimes anger. When I focus on the waiting, it does not feel good! But what happens when I realize I don’t have to wait? I see more clearly what I truly want and that I can create the result which I desire. This then impacts how I feel about the situation in a good way; I become more empowered and feel happier. It is from this feeling state that I actually start doing some of the things I had been thinking about – like going for a hike. Instead of getting caught up in waiting for the perfect time, the right weather, people to join me, etc., I posted a spontaneous invite on Facebook and had 2 friends able to come with me the very next day!
What about you? Where in your life are you telling yourself that you have to wait? When we are in this waiting phase, it’s as if we’ve given our power away – letting life slip by like we don’t really care about what happens. But that’s total bs! We do care. We really care. So, why not align with what we want? If you’ve been waiting for a sign that now is the right time to start, consider this it! It’s time to take a stand and declare ‘I’m not waiting anymore!’. Stop telling yourself you can’t have what you want, and start taking small steps to make it happen! And then simply allow yourself to enjoy the ride.
“Give up waiting as a state of mind. When you catch yourself slipping into waiting, snap out of it. Come into the present moment. Just be, and enjoy being. If you are present, there is never any need for you to wait for anything.” ~Eckhart Tolle~