I was looking through some journals recently and thought I’d share a post from July 23, 2012.
I was in life coach training at the time and was working on what my business name would be and who my ideal clients are. I think I was writing about what “problems” I could help people with and what my clients want when they come to me for coaching. (Really I was talking about myself because we always teach what we need to learn.) I’m not sure if I was writing about affirmations, gratitude, or the power of positive talk, but here’s what was on the paper:
“I don’t have all the answers, but I truly believe everything will be ok.
I’m not in a job I love right now, but someday I will be.
I’m not in a relationship right now, but when the time is right I will be.
I’m not rich (financially) right now, but I believe I can be.
I don’t have all the things I want in life, but I have a great life.
I live alone, but I’m not alone.
I haven’t run a marathon yet, but I can train for one.
I don’t have it all figured out, and that’s ok.
I didn’t do everything perfectly, but I did the best I could at the time.
I only need my own approval.
I need to love myself. I can’t receive from others what I can’t give myself.
I don’t worry about what I can’t control.”
If any of these things resonate with you, here’s what you need to know:
I still don’t have all the answers. Or the dream job. Or the amazing relationship. Or the perfect body. Or a million dollars. And to be honest, I’m totally happy anyway!
What I realized is that ‘getting there’ doesn’t matter so much as ‘being here’.
It’s not accomplishments and acquiring things that will bring us peace and happiness – what does is living in the present moment and accepting what is happening without judgment. Byron Katie says that we knock ourselves out of heaven when we believe (untrue) thoughts that take us out of reality – out of the now. This might sound like:
I’ll be alone forever if I leave this marriage/relationship.
If I reach for my dreams, I will fail and be disappointed.
I need to be ‘this way’ (fill in the blank), in order for people to like me.
People will be hurt or they will dislike me if I speak my mind.
Nothing I ever do is good enough; I’m not enough.
Shift your attention back to the present moment and notice how right now, everything is ok. There is nothing to fear or worry about.
Anytime you feel regret about the past or anxious about the future, come back to the present moment. Breathe. All is well. You are enough. You are always enough.
There is nothing that can change the light of your being except your painful thoughts about yourself. Choose thoughts that bring you peace. Even if you don’t fully believe it at first, here is a good one to repeat daily: ‘Regardless of my past, of whether I am where I want to be now, or what happens in the future, I completely love and approve of myself.’
Accept yourself for who you are now, as you are now, your life as it is now, and you will find yourself in heaven. Changes you want to make will be easier, opportunities will present themselves, the people you need will come into your life, and you will be happier.
But don’t take my word for it! Do it yourself, and you’ll see the magic unfold firsthand.
“Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act upon it.” ~Steve Maraboli~