“Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go. So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why. It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time. It’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right. I hope you had the time of your life.” –Good Riddance (Time of Your Life) (Green Day)
This song was released in 1997 – I was 23 years old at the time. I had graduated from university just the year before. I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life, and I certainly had no plan. I worked in a retail sales job where often a whole day would go by without any customers coming in. I was bored and unmotivated. I think I even fell asleep at work a few times. It was beyond brutal. I knew there was something more to life than what I was doing, but I didn’t know what it was or how to find it. But I had an idea – one I could not believe I was even thinking. Against everything that might have seemed logical, I followed my heart and moved from Halifax, Nova Scotia to Hay River, Northwest Territories – approximately 6300 kms (3900 miles) away from everything and almost everyone I knew.
I had been to Hay River 2 years prior to the move – to visit my Mom and my uncle who were living there at the time. I didn’t love it at first. It was isolated and didn’t have a lot in the way of shopping or things to do. I am fairly sure I was recorded on videotape (yes, tape! No one had smart phones back then) saying “I could never live here”! I had grown up in a small town and couldn’t wait to get out. Post high school graduation, I moved to the “big city”, and I wanted no part of living in a small town in the middle of nowhere. Or so I thought! That first visit was in August of 1995. My brother was killed in a car accident in October of that same year, which is when the shift started – from being appalled at the idea of living in the North to actually wanting to move there to be with my Mom. As they say, “never say never”.
“All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.” ~Martin Buber~
It is a decision I will never regret. I ended up living there for 5 years and had an amazing experience. I realized it had everything I needed at the time – a bowling alley, a movie theatre, banks, a drug store, an airport, a grocery store, etc. I made some truly wonderful friends, loved living by the Great Slave Lake, and I got a job with an airline so my dreams of traveling the world came true. Plus, fast forward to 2011, (during a time when I was contemplating a career change), I was scrolling through my newsfeed on Facebook and saw that a girl I’d met in Hay River had just launched her website. She had become a Life Coach. Without even knowing what exactly that meant, I knew it was the profession for me! I signed up for the training right away, and I am so grateful (for it and for her). Life coaching has connected with an incredible tribe of people and to think I almost missed out on it by being tempted to stay in my comfort zone.
Always know that you are being guided. Always know that whatever happens is for a reason. Follow your intuition – even if it logically seems crazy; it will lead you where you are meant to go. You don’t need to know where that is or how long it will take or what it will be like. Just trust. These days, this moment right now, is the time of your life. Live it wide open.
“I am learning to trust the journey even when I do not understand it.” ~Mila Bron~