“Made a wrong turn, once or twice. Dug my way out, blood and fire. Bad decisions, that’s alright. Welcome to my silly life.” -Fuckin’ Perfect (P!nk)
I have been working on my website for months with little progress. I was really stuck on what I wanted to say about myself. Why? Good question! I think part of the hesitation was in wanting it to be “perfect” – i.e. to describe me, to feel like me, to portray who I am, etc. And then I thought to myself – of course it’s perfect – whatever I write about me, my coaching, and my life is perfect. After all, who knows me better than ME?! (This didn’t stop me from re-wording it MANY times.)
I think those of us with perfectionist tendencies sometimes worry so much about making the “right” decision that we often paralyze ourselves. All we really need to do is listen to our instincts, make a choice and then accept the consequences. What’s the worst thing that can happen? We don’t like our decision, and we then make a change. We’re going to make a lot of “mistakes”. So what? It’s all just learning. All of our experiences in life are here to teach us something – to show us what we didn’t know before.
Stop waiting for “it” to be perfect. You have everything you need right now.
I spent a lot of time in my life trying to be “perfect”. For example, as a teenager it was even very important to me that I style my hair perfectly (I would spend 2 hours and a can of hairspray trying to get it “just right”. Not even kidding.) I wanted other people to think I looked good. I also wanted to be the perfect student. I was terrified to do poorly on a test. I know why I strived to get good grades – I was afraid of disappointing other people and looking like a failure. In reality (I realized many years later), the only person’s approval I ever needed was my own.
As I write this post and get ready to launch my website, I am truly proud of it. I think it honestly does represent me and what I believe in. It’s sincere and real and simplistic. I know it’s not “perfect” and that I’ll likely make changes at some point, but it’s good enough for me right now. I’m not worried about whether others will judge me or what the critics will say. That, my friends, is pure bliss! (i.e. perfect happiness)
As Anna Quindlen says, “the thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”