Let expectation motivate you (not constrain you)

I once read that expectation is the root of all evil…or all heartache…or something like that… I can’t quite remember the exact quote or who said it. And to some extent I agree with him/her. Expectation can lead to disappointment when things don’t turn out how we thought/hoped they would. But I think not having any expectation means also not having any goal, desire or purpose. And that just doesn’t seem like how we are meant to live. (Although perhaps the proper word for that then is intention, not expectation.) I know I’ve had expectations of myself, as well as others, many times over the years. Sometimes my expectations were met, and sometimes they weren’t. Sometimes things went horribly wrong, and sometimes what happened was so much better than I ever could have planned. I think if you are able to ride the wave and not be too set in your expectations, you will do just fine. But trying to control and predict life is a frustrating (losing) battle. When expectations aren’t met, it can still be a positive! It becomes a learning opportunity – a way of gaining knowledge through life experience. When expectations are exceeded, we get blessed by The Universe with a nice surprise. Many times when I’ve had expectations of someone – whether at work, a friend or in a relationship, I’ve been accused of being too demanding or too controlling or just not as nice as I could be. But here’s the deal… If I am asking you (gently nudging or even pushing you) to do more than you think I should, it’s because...

Anything is possible

On what would have been my brother’s 45th birthday (August 20th, 2016), I went with some family and friends to see a psychic medium. It was a small group session (40 people total), and in true Stephen style, he was the first spirit to come through. The medium had A LOT of messages for us from my brother. One of the best things she said (in my opinion) was “Oh – I just love his personality! He’s one of those guys who just likes to ‘fuckin’ give’r’!” And we really got a laugh out of that because he absolutely was like that. No holds barred. Flat out. Wide open. She also said (without asking his age): “He may not have lived a long life, but he REALLY LIVED  all of his twenty something years”. Indeed, he did. And it got me thinking… Where have I been being complacent lately about my life? (Going through the motions without really being invested in what I want – without even asking myself if the life I’m living is the life I want.) The idea that I have been existing but not really living got me totally fired up! Because that’s not who I want to be or how I want to live. I want to experience as much as possible! “I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find I lived just the length of it. I want to live the width of it as well.” ~Diane Ackerman~ This realization resulted in me booking a spontaneous trip to Maui to take a couple of workshops with Doreen Virtue. I...

Keep calm and travel on!

Recently I did one of my very favourite things and went on a trip to Ireland. I’ve been wanting to go there for awhile now and finally made it happen! To say it was magical would be an understatement. It was green and lush, the people were incredible, and the Guinness does actually taste better there! But it’s not even all that stuff which made the trip so special. We had many struggles along the way, and each time, The Universe sent an angel to rescue (help) us. Here are just a few examples: First, we got bumped off the flight to Dublin and had to be routed to Gatwick. I won’t even get into the details of that (confusing, frustrating) experience, except to say we had an extremely helpful agent assist us in getting a flight and checked in to Dublin. #angel When we arrived in Dublin, we knew that my friend’s bag was missing (as it had not arrived in Gatwick). The lady at lost luggage services was very kind and helpful in assisting any way she could. #angel My friend had developed a slight cold/cough prior to the trip. While we were sitting in a bar having a pint one day, the waiter sends his co-worker to the store to buy some honey and makes her a healing hot honey drink. #angel When the bus tickets we bought online wouldn’t scan, and we couldn’t figure out the bus schedule, a driver told us to hop on his bus and that he’d get us where we need to go to make our connection. #angel During the trip, we had been...

Wishing you all the best for 2016!

Hey friends! Unfortunately I don’t have a blog for you this month. I wish I had something brilliant for you about letting go of the old in order to create space for the new, but to be honest, my head (and my heart) just wasn’t it in this month. I would however like to wish you an abundance of blessings and blessings of abundance for the new year! Happy New...

Do what you want (like no one’s watching)

“I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance. Never settle for the path of least resistance. Livin’ might mean takin’ chances, but they’re worth takin’. Lovin’ might be a mistake, but it’s worth makin’.  Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter. When you come close to sellin’ out, reconsider. Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance. And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance.” –I Hope You Dance (Lee Ann Womack) The theme amongst some of my family a couple weekends ago was: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (a quote from Wayne Gretzky). We weren’t talking about scoring goals (or hockey even) – it just kept coming up. We were talking about applying for jobs, asking someone out on a date – putting yourself out there in some way. One person would say something, and the (obvious) response from everyone else would be that line. If you’re not familiar with this expression, here’s the gist of what it means: 1) If you don’t go after what you want, you likely won’t ever have it. 2) If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 3) If you don’t step forward, you will remain in the same place. Recently my friend Sarah and I had the pleasure of talking with Ted Jackson. (He’s a guy who ran 7 marathons on 7 continents in 7 days. His story is totally incredible and inspiring!) Sarah had told me about him a few months earlier, and we both thought it would be...

The magic of new beginnings

“To everything, turn, turn, turn.  There is a season, turn, turn, turn. And a time to every purpose under heaven.” –Turn! Turn! Turn! (The Byrds) Change is in the air – in more ways than one! Yesterday was the first day of fall in the Northern hemisphere. This means that summer is over…no more sitting out soaking up the sun, no more days at the beach, no more heading out the door somewhere at the last minute with wet hair (knowing it’ll be mostly dry by the time you get there). While seeing summer leave makes me a little sad, there are many things I love about this time of year: the leaves changing colour, the crispness in the air, and harvesting the food from my garden. For me, a change in seasons always feels like a time of new beginnings. It’s the perfect time for letting go of what needs to go and creating space for what wants to come into your life. Last week, some people very near and dear to me did exactly this when they packed up and moved to the other side of the country. I could look at it as a bad thing – an end to their time here in Nova Scotia (at least temporarily anyway). Or I could be excited for them and encourage them to celebrate! This is a new chapter in their lives, and I think there’s always something to look forward to with a new experience. What will unfold is unknown – just as it’s unknown what would have happened if they didn’t go. At some point, afraid...

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