Heal your mind; heal your body.

I want to tell you a story from my life about 4 years ago. It was January 2012, and I was in Maui on vacation with friends. One day I woke up and was in quite a bit of pain. My joints hurt – a lot! My ankles were swollen, and I couldn’t lift my arms high enough to tie my bikini top around my neck. I thought I was having a reaction to come antibiotics I was taking. A few days later when I returned home to Canada, I went to the doctor. They ran all sorts of tests and told me “nothing is wrong with you”. For the next 6 months, I endured terrible pain and inflammation in all of my joints. Some days, it hurt so much to walk (to put pressure on my feet). I tried soaking in Epsom salts. I did acupuncture. I did magnetic therapy. I took tinctures from the Naturopath. I spent thousands of dollars trying to cure myself. Then, in June of 2012, I decided to try hypnotherapy. (The session lasted about an hour and cost me only $125.00.) At one point during the session the hypnotherapist asked me to place anything that I needed to let go of in a trunk (the chest/box kind – not the car kind). My ex-husband immediately flashed into my brain. I felt guilty for hurting him. (We had been separated for 7 years, divorced for 6 years by this point in time. He was living in another country, had re-married and was not thinking about me at all I’m sure! Plus, I must mention that...

It’s more than a feeling, my friend

I had a blog nearly completely written the other day, and my computer died before I got to finish and publish it. (It didn’t just needed to be recharged – when I turn it on the screen is black.) So…then I wondered if I should try to rewrite the same post again or write something new. The answer came to me through a question someone asked on my Facebook page. I had made a post on there about the link between feeling your emotions and how it physically impacts your body. I mentioned that we are meant to feel all emotions and that some are best to not hang onto for long (such as anger, grief, or fear). I said that it’s good to feel any emotion fully, to acknowledge it, to find out what it’s trying to tell you, and then let it go. The person who commented said “I’ve read that 100 times and still say sounds good. No /$#&( * idea how to do that!” (I love honest people!) I figured I may as well make my blog post about this subject because I’m guessing the answer could be useful for many people. I really wish this kind of stuff was taught in schools. I remember when I was a kid I used to have temper tantrums (yes, the down on the floor kicking and screaming kind). Thinking back about it now, I wonder what I was so mad about. What was my emotion trying to say? How was I not being heard? Which leads me to one way I find it useful to fully feel an...

I don’t need any more cryptic bullshit!

The other day I was thinking about my life and how I have been feeling sort of stuck. This is not the typical me. I don’t do stuck. I hate feeling stagnant! As a true Scorpio, I actually thrive on change. I felt fed up. I’m tired of being patient and waiting for the “right time”. I want what I want NOW! I was literally walking around talking to myself saying “Something’s gotta give! I’m a good, kind, caring, compassionate person; I deserve to be happy and fulfilled!” That night I was talking with a friend of mine about it, and she asked me if maybe I was depressed. “No, it’s not that”, I said to her, “I just want The Universe to send me a really distinct sign- I don’t need any more cryptic bullshit!” Now, if you know me, or if you’ve been following me on my blog or Facebook for any length of time, you know that I am generally an optimistic person. I can usually find something good in every situation. And I am very in tune with receiving signs from The Universe. I love analyzing my dreams. I look up animal totems. I know a little about numerology. I have dabbled in Feng Shui. I meditate to clear my mind. I self coach to keep my limiting beliefs and fears in check. If there is some kind of woo woo magic to experiment with, I am open to it! However, right now I’d just love to see something – some bit of clarity or direction – as if it was clearly written on a chalk...

Wishing you all the best for 2016!

Hey friends! Unfortunately I don’t have a blog for you this month. I wish I had something brilliant for you about letting go of the old in order to create space for the new, but to be honest, my head (and my heart) just wasn’t it in this month. I would however like to wish you an abundance of blessings and blessings of abundance for the new year! Happy New...

“They” are right; less is more! How simplicity = happiness.

“Oh, it’s a mystery to me. We have a greed with which we have agreed. And you think you have to want more than you need. Until you have it all you won’t be free.” -Society (Eddie Vedder) I listened to an amazing interview (featuring two of my fellow life coach friends!) a couple of weeks ago, and during one part they were talking about the concept of hedonic adaptation. This basically means that we get used to good stuff. It’s how that the fuzzy feeling you get from a certain thing starts to subside over time. You know what I’m talking about! Like when you get a new pair of shoes that you “had to have” and within a few weeks you forget that you even own them as they collect dust in your closet. A lot of people get on the hedonic treadmill – constantly searching for the next best thing and hoping to find happiness in tangible things and/or from other people. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you can’t enjoy the things that you buy. I really like my books and my juicer for example.  I re-read my books over and over again, and I use my juicer nearly every day. I find a lot of joy in both of these simple things. (I just moved from Alberta back to Nova Scotia and actually packed my juicer in the car in case the moving truck takes too long to get here with the rest of my stuff. That’s how much I love juicing!) What I am saying, however, is that “stuff” won’t make you...

Emotions: the agony of our human experience

“When your day is long and the night, the night is yours alone, when you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on. Don’t let yourself go, ‘cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes.”  -Everybody Hurts (R.E.M.)  On the heels of nearly 5 straight weeks of vacation, 2 weeks ago I decided to start the Ultimate Reset (a Beachbody cleanse/detox). I figured it would help combat the less than healthy choices I’d made (in food and alcohol) during my holidays and maybe I’d even shed a few pounds. Perfect! What I didn’t expect was the emotional roller coaster I would experience for the first 5 days. Was it due to the reset itself or the post vacation blues? I can’t say for sure. What I can tell you is that I was crying nearly every day that week. There was nothing “wrong”.  I just felt sad, lonely and overwhelmed. Have you ever experienced the feeling of utter melancholy? I have. I’ve endured more heartache in my life than I want to think about sometimes – bad relationships, the death of my brother, a failed marriage, my Dad passing away, losing my Grampie Bob, and the one which I internalized the most – in my early 30’s, I had a miscarriage. I didn’t tell many people – for a couple of reasons: 1) I had said for so many years that I was never having children that when it happened, I believed I deserved it – that I had gotten what I’d been asking for and 2) I didn’t want people to feel sorry for me.  But the...

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